Miscarriage creates eternal grief.

The loss of a child is one of the hardest things a woman can go through.

I am so sorry you are going through this.

Miscarriages occur in 1 in 4 women, yet are rarely talked about. The words your loved ones say may not be what you need to hear right now. Even with the best intentions, hearing “everything happens for a reason” or “it will happen in time” or “at least you have…” can be heartbreaking and make you feel even more alone.

You might feel

  • grief

  • anger/resentment

  • fear

  • inability to be intimate with your partner again

  • alone

  • anxious

  • depressed

  • terrified of trying again

  • at a loss of how to focus on any other relationships (with partner, family, friends, etc)

  • triggered by other pregnancy announcements, baby showers, gender reveals, baby aisles…

You deserve a safe space to discuss ALL of your feelings and emotions.

You deserve to be heard.

You deserve to place your mental health as a priority after miscarriage(s).

You deserve to find yourself again.

You deserve to find moments of happiness, joy, and peace.

You deserve to grieve your loss.

You deserve to heal from this loss.

You don’t have to go through this devastation alone.

With pregnancy loss…

You don't get the funeral, support, and closure after the loss of your baby that are all considered of the utmost importance in other kinds of loss.

 You might feel completely alone and misunderstood in your grief, especially hearing these types of statements from loved ones (even though they are well-intentioned)

  • "Everything happens for a reason"

  • "At least you were able to get pregnant"

  • "It will happen when it is meant to"

  • "They are in a better place"

These statements from well-meaning loved ones can create intense feelings of anger, resentment, and sadness. In turn, this might increase your feelings of guilt for having these reactions.

You deserve to process your loss in a safe space.

You are struggling to like anything about your body, especially when it has failed you so badly. You have feelings of guilt, even though everything you hear and read says it is NOT your fault.

 You don't understand how everyone else's lives can continue moving forward when such a big piece of you and your soul is missing.

 You don't know how to talk to your partner because you are grieving in such different ways.

You deserve to start living again. You deserve to find yourself. You deserve to find peace more days than not. You deserve to find a connection with your loved ones again.

It’s time to get support and heal from your loss.

Pregnancy after loss

Anxiety can be crippling with pregnancy after loss.

You might have:

  • panic attacks

  • anxiety at doctor’s appointments or phone calls

  • anxiety going to the bathroom

  • worry about every “symptom” or lack of “symptom” you have, wondering if every movement is causing another miscarriage

  • struggle with being grateful and happy with your pregnancy

  • continued grief with your previous loss

  • struggle in connecting with your pregnancy

  • nightmares about loss

  • fear of buying anything for your pregnancy, nursery, etc

You deserve to grieve your previous loss and find joy and peace at the same time.

You don’t have to do this alone.